Ideas to open up a conversation with your child...As parents and caregivers, our children may come home with a problem from time to time. It may involve friendships, bullying, school work or a conflict with someone. Finding a way to talk to our children can be tricky, but sometimes phrasing questions and comments in a non-threatening way can help kids open up. The following are tips on how to get your child talking in a way that will promote problem solving.
Words that you can use to get kids to think about their behavior:
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- What happened?
- What happened next?
- How were you feeling? How do you think (student name) was feeling?
- What did you want?
- Is what you’re doing getting you what you want?
- Did that work for you?
- What can you do differently?
- Is there anything else that you can do?
- Will that work for everyone?
- What can you do next time so this won’t be a problem?
- Are you doing what you think you should be doing?
- What do you need to do now?
- What would you like to see happen?
- How are you feeling right now?
More Love & Logic Resources
Want some suggestions for reading? Look for these Love and Logic titles at your favorite bookstore or library!
Helicopters, Drill Sergeants, and Consultants: Parenting Styles and the Messages They Send by Jim Fay
Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting from Birth to Six Years by Jim Fay and Charles Fay
- Love and Logic Magic When Kids leave you Speechless by Jim Fay and Charles Fay
- Parenting Doesn't have to Be Rocket Science: Teach Kids Good Choices by Foster W. Cline, MD
- Winning the Homework Battle: Helping Children Discover and Celebrate Their Strengths by Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, MD
- Four Steps to Responsibility: Techniques to Lead Children to Responsible Decision Making by Jim Fay
- Meeting the Challenge: Using Love and Logic to Help Children Develop Attention and Behavior Skills by Jim Fay, Foster W. Cline, and Bob Sornson
- The Pearls of Love and Logic for Parents and Teachers by Jim Fay and Foster KW. Cline, MD